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"Tense? Who's Tense?
I'm just planning a $%&#
PARTY!!"
Over birthday party planning?
Yeah, past tense ...and so was the party.
Suffering Party Planning Paralysis? Help is Here!
Relax. Breathe. Chant! 5 Golden Mantras to remember when planning a
birthday party and the Birthday Beast appears.
Happy Birthday to some people is an
oxymoron.
It fits nicely
with Jumbo Shrimp, Government Assistance and True Lies.
This is so true for the person doing some
birthday party planning.
Why is this tension present? What are they such
stressful times? Should there always be a pleasure / pain thing going on?
Is it inevitable that there will be tension?
Sorry, for the answer but is a resounding YES. And that is a good thing. The
nerves, butterflies etc. are one way our biology keeps us sharp and alert and
focused. In prehistoric times the ritual around the hunt and the subsequent
feasting was a way of riding the birthday party planning tension. Imagine Party Thurg saying: "Where's
my club ug!; which fur will I wear oog!; has Vurg ordered the berries ug-ug!; I bet
a mammoth
will rock-crash our cave ug-og-ug! etc. etc -- get the picture??
It's a bit of a dilemma wouldn't you say? The solution when negativity strikes?
Simple! This should fit really well with people into
affirmations, chanting and the new-age like.
One thing first: this is not new-age! It's age old wisdom
passed down from generation to generation.
It is sometimes commonly called -- strangely --
common sense. But in the
party preparation game there seems to be a tendency for the Party Beast to rise
from the planning pages, take on a life of its own and dictate to the
organizers. A huge case of the tail wagging the dragon.
Who we hope is not the
hostess!!!!!
"Tell me oh wise one.
What are the
most important
things to remember?"
Hark! Is that a drum-roll I hear in the
distance?
Ready?
When in the midst of a birthday party planning crisis and the negative thoughts
appear...replace them with a positive one !
Tah-da!!!
Seriously. Invasive thoughts will only add to the
tension....and their opposite, as the name suggests, will have the opposite
effect.
After years of event and birthday party planning and watching people go through
their party pains, I have noticed five usual suspects:
- "I cant cope with this"
Meaning: "It's all about me!"
Remedy: "It's
all about them!!" Get back to why you are doing it and what others will
benefit from you efforts. A warm glow should follow.
- " There's too much to handle!"
Meaning: "I'm out of control with this"
Remedy: "It's
all a matter of one-thing-at-a-time!!" Revise your planning and run sheet and
look for a way to hand -off three tasks. Do this and the tension will plummet.
- "Why is it always me. I always do these
things"
Meaning: "I feel uncertain or confused"
Remedy: "This is the time, this I the place I am
the one." Take massive action on the current task till complete, then go ask
for a massage. Re-connect with people who lift you up.
- "I'm doing it all myself"
Meaning: "I feel isolated and alone"
Remedy: "I have many other helping in many ways"
Take a pen and draw a map of all the people involved and what they are doing.
If you genuinely believe there is an imbalance - pick up the phone!
- " I can't wait for this to end"
Meaning: sniff-sniff "My flesh is
burning!"
Remedy: "the work
is done now I'm having some fun"
No burning martyr syndrome please -- gets into the cake!! Look back at the
reasons
Would they work? Naturally.
A word of warning...
If it is all going too well then that is the time
to look a little closer and see what's really going on.
Remember, it's all about pausing and giving you
permission to have a re-focus, breathe, hook into the appropriate manta. It's
OK. The birthday party planning process is not a smooth one. Relax and
remember the wonderfully crafted nugget of knowledge delivered by Paul Giamati
as a room service guy to Julia Robert in My Best Friend's Wedding. As he took
a puff on an not-supposed-to do-it cigarette, he warmly said to Jules sensing her state
of panic:
"This too will pass"
It did for Julia. It did for Thurg and it will for
you.
Neal Lohse © 2006
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